God Is He The One?
Are you a woman who’s tired?
Tired of trying, tired of guessing, or maybe you're just curious with little to no dating experience and you're wondering: God, how do I know if he's the one?
Is this the man You sent?
Will he care for me?
Will he lead me with Christ-like character?
Maybe you grew up with a father and have some reference for what it looks like for a man to provide, protect, and pour into you. Or maybe you didn’t. Maybe you’re a woman who wasn’t taught how to properly vet a man. A woman without knowledge. A woman who's had to figure it all out on her own.
Today, I invite you woman of God into a conversation. One that could shift how you approach love and dating from this day forward.
It’s called The Viewpoints of Men.
This isn’t just a theory. It’s a direction, a step, a guide. It’s insight into how men see us, and what that means for how they will treat us. It’s wisdom for women of faith who want to date intentionally, not emotionally. Who want to be discerning, not desperate.
This came to me as a divine upload. The Lord asked me to reflect on the past men I’ve dated, to look at patterns, to ask hard questions, and pay attention. He wanted me to see beyond charm or attraction. He told me one night: “Pay attention to how they view you.”
Not just how they view your body or your beauty but how they see you through the lens of their past:
Their trauma
Their mother wounds
Their father’s example (or absence)
Their heartbreak
Their coping mechanisms
In therapy, we call these Adverse Childhood Experiences. As a Marriage and Family Therapist and a recent graduate of Pepperdine University, I can confidently say: I now look at men through a different lens. A trained lens. A Spirit-led lens.
And what I saw birthed this theory:
The Viewpoints of Men.
There are four key archetypes:
The Proud
The Fearful
The Glorifier
The Healthy
Each of these men view you in a certain way and that view informs how they’ll treat you. Because patterns don’t lie, and systems rarely change. When you know how to spot the pattern, you know how to respond.
The Viewpoints of Men is not just a book it’s a blueprint. A way for women of God to use both psychological wisdom and spiritual discernment when dating. No more dating for potential. No more ignoring red flags. No more surface-level questions like “What’s your favorite color?” or another “wyd?”
We take on the mind of Christ.
We date with standards.
We move with clarity.
I pray that even this blog post gives you a sense of peace, wisdom, and direction. I look forward to hearing your testimonies and connecting with you, sis.
Peace and blessings,
Your sister in Christ - A.